Here we have Padmavajra talking about the importance of bhavana in our metta practice – the growing of friendly feelings, friendly responses, slowly, gently, like a garden. What you attend to, you become. It is vital that we engage with the practice honestly, starting where we actually are and gradually moving towards non-dual loving kindness, maha maitri, the Great Love that has dissolved the distinction between self and other.
From the talk entitled Introducing the Great Love...