Coogee Buddhist Group

Metta

On Tue, 21 January, 2014 - 10:26
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dharmalata
Dear Coogee Meditators

I get emails from a property investment company pretty much every day and I quite like them. Amongst the blogs they have, what I find to be, some quite inspiring articles and I’ve included an excerpt from one they posted today from a Harvard Business School paper about how successful people manage stress.

Immediately I saw the connection to what we understand about the metta (kindness) practice ……

There were ten points hierarchically ordered from one to ten and have a look at what came out at number one!

Remind you of stage one or our Metta Bhavana practice?

1. Have self-compassion.

Self-compassion is, in essence, cutting yourself some slack.

It’s being willing to look at your mistakes or failures with kindness and understanding — without harsh criticism or defensiveness.

Studies show that people who are self-compassionate are happier, more optimistic, and less anxious and depressed.

That’s probably not surprising. But here’s the kicker: they are more successful, too.

Most of us believe that we need to be hard on ourselves to perform at our best, but it turns out that’s 100 percent wrong.

So remember that to err is human, and give yourself a break.

And whilst we’re on metta please also read the story that Natalie shared with me this week after our Sunday study group. It helps us understand stage four of the metta practice in a really simple and practical way. Just follow this link:

http://www.wildmind.org/blogs/on-practice/when-metta-doesnt-mean-love

Hope you can make our meditation this week. We will be doing the Mindfulness of Breathing Practice

7 – 8.30 pm

Biggest metta

Dharmalata




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