But it’s actually not easy to forgive sometimes. Righteous indignation is a classic isn’t it? As I heard one of our order members say in a talk some years ago it’s so easy to get caught up along the lines of ‘……… After all I’ve done for them ………’
And yet there is always the possibility of growing ourselves and just being bigger around the behaviour of others. And this is where I’ve found the metta bhavana practice to be so beautifully transformational. We simply take the other person / people in all of the complexity of the situation we find ourselves in with them and choose the kind, patient, tolerant response.
This response is completely independent of any requirement or expectation of them. It is our response created from our own place of free will and choice.
It’s not about being a doormat and we may well choose to adjust our position in relation from them to avoid further hurt or possible acting out of their negative actions but it is light, volitional and unconditional; it is not done to get back, level the score or make a statement.
This week we will be doing the metta bhavana practice on Thursday night – hope you can join us
Dharma study and breakfast this Sunday at Gina’s and my place 9 – 10.30 am