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Me and Babies by Dhammadinna

Posted by Dhammadinna on Sun, 21 Jan, 2018 - 10:00

Me and Babies by Dhammadinna

Posted by Dhammadinna on Sun, 21 Jan, 2018 - 10:00

This is my personal story of my decision, as a Dharmacharini, as to whether or not to have a baby. It is explored within the mores (conventions) of the time in Triratna.

I was 20 years old, and in my last year at University, when I became accidentally pregnant. I knew that I did not want a child at that point in my life. I had thought, however, since I was a child playing with my dollies, that I would have children...

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Thanks Dhammadinna…..the courage and resilience of women like yourself, responding to these situations and issues, constantly amazes me!!!

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Thank you very much Dhammadinna for sharing your journey so movingly. We can’t deeply ‘know’ what it was like for those of you who were around at the birth and toddler stage of the Order. But we can imagine it more fully when hear stories with personal details. 

And I do love hearing stories from people like you and Malini about those early days, the experimental communities and the retreat on the Isle of Muck.

From inspiring women elders I heard that life in the early days of the Order was not always easy. But they stayed ……and helped make it possible for a woman in Emerald,Australia to hear the dharma for the first time, to taste freedom and to live a transformed life in the forest with her 3 lovely children. 

What a grand experiment the growing of the Order was and still is. And, with experiments, the failures are as much a part of effective learning as the successes.

That same process unfolds endlessly.  Sangha members of the future will look back to any decisions we make now and hopefully be happy with some but I am sure will have criticism of others. But they won’t ‘know’ the nuances of why we made our decisions in this era. And that’s why it’s important to hear the elders stories and not just throw out one line statements that limit our understanding of the complexities of the tapestry being woven at the time.  

I really appreciate you taking the time to share this part of your story Dhammadinna. 

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Thank you Dhammadinna forr sharing your own story of life in the early days of the movement and the lessons you have learned

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Saddhaloka and Moksananda in Conversation about Families

Posted by saddhaloka on Mon, 22 Jan, 2018 - 10:00

Saddhaloka and Moksananda in Conversation about Families

Posted by saddhaloka on Mon, 22 Jan, 2018 - 10:00

Another lovely conversation between old friends and Public Preceptors, Moksananda and Saddhaloka, reflecting on a life being both a parent and a practicing Buddhist within the FWBO and Triratna. 

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Some Thoughts on Motherhood: the Path of Loving and Letting Go by Punyamala

Posted by punyamala on Tue, 23 Jan, 2018 - 10:00

Some Thoughts on Motherhood: the Path of Loving and Letting Go by Punyamala

Posted by punyamala on Tue, 23 Jan, 2018 - 10:00

In this article, I want to explore my experience of being a Dharmacharini and a mother. The lifestyle that we live is significant as it creates the conditions in which we shall be practicing the Dharma and not all life styles are equally supportive of spiritual practice. The conditions in which we live will unquestionably have an effect on our Dharma life. Being a Buddhist in a secular, material society is hard. Being a mother is demanding so anyone who...

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Maitreyi Interviews Punyamala About Families

Posted by Maitreyi on Sat, 20 Jan, 2018 - 15:00

Maitreyi Interviews Punyamala About Families

Posted by Maitreyi on Sat, 20 Jan, 2018 - 15:00

A great conversation between two friends who are also members of the College of Public Preceptors, exploring Punyamala’s experiences around having children in the context of her Buddhist life within the FWBO and Triratna.

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Dharma Life - Family Life

Posted by saddhaloka on Fri, 19 Jan, 2018 - 17:31

Dharma Life - Family Life

Posted by saddhaloka on Fri, 19 Jan, 2018 - 17:31

One of the tasks the Adhisthana Kula set itself was to encourage people within Triratna to take a fresh look at some of those areas of practice and lifestyle that have been of real value and importance, and which sometimes have been put forward in an unhelpful way.

We look to build an Order and movement in which anyone who sincerely wishes to commit themselves to the Three Jewels can find a place and have something to give, whatever their...

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Reviewing How The Preceptors' College Works

Posted by saddhaloka on Mon, 4 Dec, 2017 - 14:09

The College of Public Preceptors has been growing and its make-up is changing. By next year we could have 45 active members, and it will inevitably continue to grow as the movement expands and more public preceptors are needed. Many of the founding generation still in the College have been coming together in all sorts of meetings and gatherings for 40 years. Quite a number of them are now approaching 70, or are already into their 70s. We...

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Adhisthana Kula - An Update On Our Work (September 2017)

Posted by ratnadharini on Sat, 23 Sep, 2017 - 13:05

Adhisthana Kula - An Update On Our Work (September 2017)

Posted by ratnadharini on Sat, 23 Sep, 2017 - 13:05

The FWBO/Triratna was formed to alleviate the suffering of the world through practising and sharing the Dharma, the teaching of the Buddha, and that remains at our heart. Over 50 years we have created an Order and Movement that have touched and transformed the lives of thousands of people around the world. The journey has been inspiring and challenging, and not without difficulties. We deeply regret where anyone’s involvement with our Order and Movement has led to suffering and...

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Sikkha, A Conversation with Dhammamegha And Dhammarati

Posted by dhammarati on Mon, 4 Sep, 2017 - 20:12

In March 2017, Saddhaloka wrote about steps the Preceptors’ College would be taking in the coming months. One of these steps was to acknowledge the importance of the ‘shared system of teaching and practice that we derive from Bhante’s particular presentation of the Dharma, while allowing for its systematic and orderly evaluation and development, so that it is more and more effective’ .

One of the important ways that ‘evaluation and development’ is happening is through the work...

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A Complex Personality: A Note - a new piece of writing by Sangharakshita

Posted by Mahamati on Tue, 8 Aug, 2017 - 20:21

A Complex Personality: A Note - a new piece of writing by Sangharakshita

Posted by Mahamati on Tue, 8 Aug, 2017 - 20:21

In his personal statement issued on December 30th 2016 Sangharakshita said, among other things: 

  1. that the FWBO/Triratna sometimes bore the marks not of the Dharma but of his own particular personality;
  2. that his personality was a complex one.


In a new piece of writing, ‘A Complex Personality: A Note’, he explores what he had in mind when he wrote this. He highlights those marks of his personality which have had a positive impact on Triratna as it is today,...